Spiritual Lesson.
After the Dave Has Gone.
Our trauma and our hurts are a result of a series of decisions made by us for our growth. They are always intended to enable us to heal and evolve.
It’s easy to point fingers, blame and play the victim. But the reality is that no one is to blame. If we’ve been hurt, or reminded of our previous hurts, Dave did their job well.
Shadow is born from the pain of separation (separating good and bad), and manifests either through self-destructive behaviors, attitudes like shame, “the inner critic”, or anger.
Separation is the result of judgment we show others and ourselves. When we are in separation, our shadows remain apart from us because they exhibit those aspects of ourselves that we deem “bad”, or “wrong” or “shameful”.
However, like attracts like.
Even if on the surface we may not have had so much in common with our Dave’s, the key element is our shadow: Dave’s shadow draws out our shadow.
While Dave may not get us to the point of incorporating our shadows, Dave is truly adept at allowing them to surface so we can see those parts of ourselves that we denied. Because only when we can recognize our shadow can we begin to bring it into light and begin the process of finding wholeness.
After our Dave’s, we tend to want to close ourselves off to lick our wounds and not trust anyone. Once our shadows are out and up for us to see, we may want to hide away or ignore them entirely. But the thing about shadows is once they’ve surfaced, they don’t go away.
The Shadow of Dave.
How did you react to your Dave? Did Dave make you angry, depressed, defeated or ashamed?
What did your interaction with Dave bring out in you that you didn’t like to see?
Did Dave give you a sense of low self-esteem or did you find yourself acting jealous or possessive or even clingy? Did you feel a constant need to prove yourself, or eliminate your boundaries in order to be available? ( Remember, this doesn’t have to be around a dating relationship, it could be any kind of relationship that while seemingly mutual in the beginning, became lopsided and plays into your karmic theme).